I want to be sure I documented our sweet Bradley’s birth story as I did the same for Cecilia. Perhaps I should do Benjamin’s as well! As I started Cecilia’s story I will start this one the same. This is what I personally was wishing for; I believe every birth is beautiful however you choose. I was hoping for another VBAC and again wanted to have a intervention/medication free birth. I am so incredibly fortunate to have had three healthy and wonderful pregnancies and births, each different, but each with a healthy baby. I count my blessings every day.
After my 20-week appointment I decided to switch providers. However, it took me awhile to actually do it. I was fine with the care I was receiving, I liked my doctor enough. But this time, enough wasn’t good enough. After talking a lot with Aaron, my doula, and others at prenatal yoga and doing my own research, I chose to switch to a midwife. My beliefs surrounding childbirth and maternity care really aligned with the midwifery approach. It wasn’t until 30 weeks that I met with my midwife. Looking back, I do wish I had switched earlier, yet I’m so happy I went with a midwife.
Right away, I knew I made the right choice. Some of the things I really loved was the fact that my midwife would let me go to 42 weeks, she really took the time to get to know ME and my wishes and she listened. She wanted to know all about the previous pregnancies and deliveries. She and her team were so laid back about everything. I brought my birth plan and she saw it and was like, “oh yes, this is exactly what we do.” I was in shock because I had to really try to get a few things “approved” for Cecilia.
I started going back to the chiropractor regularly like I did with Cecilia to get my body aligned to fully prepare for birth. Around 40-41 weeks I was over being pregnant and wanted to meet baby. My mom was here for the month and I thought it was just time for baby to come.
I decided to do acupuncture (this worked like a charm for Cecilia). I went to a new woman for two treatments and it didn’t work. I had some contractions but nothing happened. Then I went back to the woman who I saw for Cecilia and she did some cupping and other techniques on the 18th.
And then here we were on April 19th, 11 days past my due date. My midwife wanted another ultrasound to check fluid levels (the week prior they were borderline high) and she suggested getting my membranes swept. I really didn’t want any interventions at all and wanted to experience complete spontaneous labor again. However, my other option was to remain pregnant through the weekend and wait and get my water broken on that Monday at 42 weeks. Before I went ahead with getting my membranes stripped, I wanted to see if I was dilated and if it really would get things going. I hadn’t been getting “checked” this pregnancy so at that appointment (41 weeks 5 days) I got checked and was dilated to a 4. After weighing all of my options, I decided to go for it. When I left, I was dilated to a 5.
My brother got in town that same day (Friday) for Easter and I’m sure he thought we’d have a 2 week old by then! Around 7pm I started to feel some mild contractions. My brother and Aaron were putting the kids to bed and things started to pick up. I drew a bath and by the time they got downstairs I was in the tub. I’m pretty sure it freaked my brother out knowing I was likely in labor so he quickly exited and he went to my parents VRBO.
At about 7:30 things started to pick up. And they picked up fast. It’s all sort of hazy and I have no idea if I’m correct about the times either. Aaron called my mom to let her know that we thought I was in labor but to be on call, thinking we’d have plenty of time. We started texting our doula (Ashley) who came over super fast and within 10 minutes she was like, “I think we should probably go to the hospital.” My contractions came on super sudden and super strong and were sort of all over the place anywhere from 2-4 minutes apart. Then Aaron called my mom again to say, “okay, get here we need to go to the hospital” and it felt like eternity (but was probably only 10 minutes).
We had the worst time getting in touch with the hospital to let them know I was coming and we thought baby was coming super fast, so Ashley called the midwife to let her know we were on our way. Ashley told me if I felt the urge to push to make a sound like a horse in the car. As my mom pulled up she yelled, “Call 911!” (We didn’t, but she was nervous I guess). We missed practically every light on the way to get to get to the hospital. We had Taylor Swift blaring and I remember just singing along to every song because we are very much a Swiftie family and her album was always on repeat for the kids. Her music got me through each intense contraction. When we pulled up, my midwife and the nurses were waiting there at the doors with a wheelchair. They wheeled me back and we hooked up my labor playlist. Then things stalled a little. For as fast and intense as they were it slowed down a bit.
For some silly reason I put on my Tory Burch sandals before leaving and my midwife said, “lets just take these off and put them over here.” (I’m glad she did too). We did lots of swaying, lunging, sort of dancing, and squats. I sort of felt like I was having an out of body experience. I really wanted to go into this birth and embrace every contraction and enjoy it. It sounds crazy but I figured let’s enjoy all of it. I loved how my midwife was there the ENTIRE time and kept telling me “you can do this, you got this and to trust your body and baby.” She was so laid back and calm. She then asked if she could check me and I was at an 8 thinking I was at a 10. (I stayed at an 8 for a while it seemed).
I opted to get into the tub for some relief and tried some contractions on the toilet as well. At 11:30 pm, I remember just looking at the clock wondering how could I keep going, I was getting very tired and I thought baby would be born already. I labored all day with Cecilia and wasn’t sure if I could keep it going for another 10 hours or so. I was having serious pain in my lower back and it was hard, much harder than Cecilia’s. However, my doula, Aaron, the nurses and my midwife kept me going. Aaron was a champ at my affirmations and I remember Ashley saying to me, “just hold on to this one moment, embrace your baby being in you for the last time.” Those words helped. Between each contraction, I needed to rest and to be silent. Aaron and Ashley provided pressure on my lower back to give me some relief.
At about 11:45 pm she checked me again and my water was “bulging” so I said “break it!”, thinking baby would fall out then (HA!). So with each wave and contraction, I focused on that having baby in my belly, this close to my heart, and kept repeating my birth mantras and kept telling myself how strong I was and that I could do this and would be meeting my baby very soon.
When it came time to push him actually out, I think I pushed for about 20 minutes or so. Aaron says “Girls” by Beyoncé was on (which was fitting because A) we all were certain Bradley was a girl, and B) it was a powerful and perfect song to push a baby out to as a woman)! I could push in whatever position I wanted which was amazing. Aaron got to help deliver Bradley and said “IT’S A BOY!” He let out a nice healthy scream and I just felt relief. Relief to hold my baby in my arms, he was healthy, to get him on my chest and to lay eyes on this sweet boy. Everyone was shocked at his size (9 pounds 13 ounces and his head circumference was 15 inches). He was immediately placed on my chest and Aaron didn’t cut the cord until it stopped pulsing. I was ecstatic, elated, empowered and very exhausted. I remember Ashley, talking to me after his delivery and I could barely keep my eyes open, yet was on a high at the same time. We brought bone broth so we got that warmed up and it was exactly what I needed after that. It was such all such a blur and now seems like such a distant memory.
Having another unmedicated/no intervention birth was absolutely amazing and made me feel like a badass. It is truly incredible what our bodies are capable of. More than that, how much of this and so much in life is a mental/mind game. We can absolutely do anything we put our minds to. I trusted my body and everyone around me did as well.
I went into this labor/birth at first being nervous, which I think is what kept him in longer. I have no idea why I was scared/nervous. But once I continued with my birth affirmations and let go of my fears is when he came (I’m sure the acupuncture and stripping membranes helped). It was much harder than Cecilia’s labor and birth even though hers lasted about 18 hours compared to 5 hours. However his size is what I believe made it much longer/harder. It probably was why I was so uncomfortable the last few weeks as well as during labor.
Having an incredible support team made all the difference in the world. I’m so thankful she never ordered an Ultrasound to check size because knowing that would have completely messed with my mind. My provider, Aaron and Ashley believed in me and were there every step of the way. They knew exactly what to say, I have no idea how they do that.
What really kept me going was Aaron, Ashley, my midwife and my nurses and my kick ass playlist (If I do say so myself). Music speaks to me, and I had everything from Anya to Tupac to Beyoncé. Waiting to find out the gender was very motivating, I wanted to meet this baby SO bad and find out who this baby was. It was hard but I felt like a badass that I was able to grow, nurture and birth him.
I highly recommend having a midwife and a doula, taking a couples birth class and trusting what motivates YOU! Communicating with your partner on what your wants and desires are; so they fully understand and can support you. I feel very lucky that Aaron has always supported what I want. All birth is beautiful. I feel SO fortunate and blessed that I’ve had three amazing pregnancies and births and have three healthy children.